First Things FirstHere’s the best advice I ever got from a lover: Put your partner’s sexual needs ahead of your own if you want him coming back for more. Show him every consideration. Show him how pleased you are to be pleasing him and then please him in every way. A backrub is a wonderful beginning and it can build into a full-body massage. But go slow. Take your time. And use more than just your hands. He’ll be squirming if your lips or tongue follows the path made by your hands. Go just as slow once he’s on his back. He’ll be holding his breath waiting for your lips to surround his erection. Keep him waiting. He’ll think you’re the greatest lover in the world once you give him what he’s been dreaming about. But be careful. If he comes, the game might be over before your needs are met. If you’re going to fuck him, now might be the time to make your move. Go back to kissing him all over and go slow. If it’s his first time, you might want to turn him over on his stomach. Having you in his face might be too much for him. Lubrication and a towel should already be there at your side. The last you want to do is get up and go after those things. Your partner needs you there reassuring him. Your partner always needs your reassurance. And you need reassurances from him. Tell him that. Tell him how you’d like him to please you. Communicate your feelings to each other. Show him how much you care by using a condom. How much pleasure canÊ there be in sex if you have to worry about it later?Ê Worry-free sex will keepÊ him coming back for more.ÊContinuous Male OrgasmsBy BJJMMSeveral years ago I learned that by getting extremely close to the threshold of ejaculatory inevitability, then halting all stimulation, then getting “close” again repeatedly, I would achieve a continuous plateau stage with frequent emissions orgasms. The resultant intensity of pleasure is possibly one half that felt in a full ejaculatory orgasm but potentially unending. Furthermore, the associated sexual organs exercise, and the learned ability to better control those organs mentally, has greatly increased the scope and persuasiveness of my sexual pleasure. It is my opinion that I have learned to enhance and maintain indefinitely the physical events and associated pleasure of an absolutely imminent ejaculatory orgasm. Feelings of pleasure are augmented by greater loin vasocongestion, and sexual organ fluid fullness and readiness. The following discussion attempts to teach men how to achieve a continuous orgasm, and to explain the physiological basis of this phenomenon. My discovery of the continuous orgasm was accidental, but recounting the event may help others separate their orgasm and ejaculatory experiences. The first time I experienced the potential of this technique I was masturbating while stoned on pot. Stimulation to my penis felt somewhat dulled. I got close to cumming but sensed that my orgasm was going to be weak, so I stopped all stimulation, knowing that I could build up to a better orgasm. When I was able to resume penile stimulation I noticed the pleasure of touching my penis was greater…so I came close to cumming again and again…and it felt better and better. Possibly five “close calls” later, my prostate had swollen and my seminal vesicles hardened and discharged but no semen flowed into my urethra. Pot seems to broaden the threshold between my orgasm emissions phase and the ejaculatory reflex response. Intense pleasure emanated from my testes, which were swollen and drawn under the tissue aside my penis. Possibly thirty minutes into this routine my loin muscles began to ache, so I proceeded to the most intensely pleasurable orgasm and high quantity ejaculation I had ever had. Long afterward my sexual organs continued to radiate an enjoyable ache. I had given these muscles a hearty exercising! I eagerly anticipated my next masturbation session, with delay dictated by my need to reload with semen. I no longer use, nor do I advocate the use of pot because of its damaging effect on the lungs. Marijuana brownie should do the trick, or possibly another serotonin uptake inhibitor (Prozac?) would induce the same effect. Anyway, pot use helped me control and broaden the threshold of ejaculatory inevitability, thus facilitating the learning of the continuous orgasm. Pot use also has a strong aphrodisiac effect when I entertained myself in this pre-ejaculation orgasm stage. Feelings of pleasure (sex munchies) are enhanced. For several months, without pot, I rarely achieved intense orgasm feelings without eliciting a few spasmodic pumping throbs and ejaculating small amounts of seminal fluid. With practice though, use of pot is not necessary to enjoy orgasms without ejaculation. Practice results in discoveries of higher degrees of sexual pleasure and sensations, so it is easy to exercise! At this point I would like to discuss the physiology of the male ejaculatory orgasm. Reference books describe the event in stages involving sexual organ vasocongestion, rising to the plateau stage, then the orgasm which consists of internal sexual organ emissions and the ejaculation reflex response. Actually, events beyond the plateau phase can be broken into many additional stages. My first sensations come from my testes, which draw up into my body. When men first sense the arrival of their orgasm, those feelings emanate from the epididymis and the spermatic cords which contract and spasm to move sperm up the ductus (vas) deferns into the ampullary gland or ampulla. The ampulla filling with sperm accentuates sexual stimulation pleasure. Continued penile stimulation soon triggers a hardening of the seminal vesicles which discharge fluid into the ampulla then into the ejaculatory ducts. Sufficient pressure quickly builds in the ejaculatory ducts to trigger a hardening of the prostate, which discharges directly into the urethra. Ejaculation is inevitable once the prostate hardens. Finally, the valves at the ends of the ejaculatory ducts open simultaneously with the initiation of the ejaculation reflex. Semen discharged from the penis comes in a distinct sequence of partially mixed emissions: 1.prostatic fluid (10%); 2. sperm (5%) and ampullary gland fluid (10%); 3. seminal fluid (70%) and again; 4. prostate fluid (5%). Note that there are valves at the ends of the ejaculatory ducts and that fluids pressure triggers the ejaculation reflex. I evidently orgasm and discharge sperm, ampullary gland, and seminal vesicle fluid into the ejaculatory ducts without triggering ejaculation or the opening those valves. I have trained myself to lock the ejaculatory duct valves closed during these emissions. The key is WHEN YOU GET VERY CLOSE TO EJACULATORY INEVITABILITY COMPLETELY RELAX ALL SEXUAL ORGAN MUSCLES, AND CEASE STIMULATION TO THE PENIS. This muscle relaxation locks the ejaculatory ducts valves closed, even as the seminal vesicles proceed to harden and discharge. Ampullary gland fluid, sperm and seminal fluid pressure builds behind the duct valves. Stopping stimulation to the penis halts the emissions pressure driven progression to the ejaculation reflex. Getting “close” to the point of seminal vesicle hardening and emissions orgasm at least ten times, involving roughly fifteen minutes of pre-ejaculatory pleasure results in the state of continuous orgasm. With experience and exercise, I have raised the pressure level required to trigger the ejaculation reflex response. I sense exactly how much more pressure can build before crossing the threshold to ejaculatory inevitability. My emissions orgasms are stronger and ultimately continuous without triggering ejaculation. My seminal vesicles harden right after I have nearly cum; hence they are almost constantly hard and discharging. My prostate swells without hardening, currently to about just half as much during a full ejaculatory orgasm. Emissions increase the amount of fluid held in the ampulla, with an associated increase in pleasure and passion of sexual readiness. The presence of sperm, ampullary gland, and seminal fluid in my ejaculatory ducts is evidenced sensations I can produce after nearly cumming. Shortly after ceasing stimulation I can contract my bulbospongiosus muscle and thereby press on my prostate and feel the fluids being pushed back up into the ampulla and seminal vesicles. This feeling of fluid movement and fullness is very pleasurable. I can stop masturbating, and hours (days) later still feel the semen in my loins eager for release. My testes also feel full and are slightly sensitive to jostling. Notice my descriptions of the physical changes to internal sexual organs that occur during an orgasm and ejaculation. By placing a middle finger into your rectum the hardening of the seminal vesicles and prostate can be palpitated digitally. Softly massaging the prostate and ampulla when they are gorged from orgasmic filling is pleasurable. The ampullary gland is the triangular organ, point facing downward, that lies just above the prostate. Four final observations can be made. First, it seems that over time my sexual organs and/or testes are producing more sperm. I easily cum twice daily, and after just 48 hours of abstinence fluids build up to a sense of Çankaya Rus Escort fullness that demands release. That sense of fullness comes from my testes. Secondly, I can generate a strong feeling of sexual excitement mentally at will. I am able to elicit a feeling of sexual rush at will, by mentally inducing contractions in my epididymis and spermatic cord causing sperm movement up my ductus (vas) deferens. The sperm rising to fill my ampullary gland raises my level of sexual excitement. My scrotum and spermatic cords move my testes around when I generate these pleasure sensations. Thirdly, I can maintain emissions orgasms without stimulation to my penis. Once a high degree of fluid pressure has accumulated behind the ejaculatory ducts valves, I can induce contractions in my epididymis and spermatic cord thereby generate sexual stimulation. This stimulation maintains my continuous orgasm, or can trigger the ejaculatory reflex. Finally, my forth observation is that the ability to enjoy orgasms while delaying ejaculation will enhance a sexual relationship. I am in no hurry, my partner is excited by my level of readiness and periodic dry penile throbs. I am satisfied, and can concentrate on giving pleasure. ÊPractice Guide to the Continuous Male OrgasmLearn to maintain indefinitely the physiological events and associated pleasure of the emissions phase of an absolutely imminent ejaculatory orgasm! Practice at least half an hour, once a day, for probably two months and you will likely gain the ability to enjoy an endless orgasm! Put on your favorite porno and follow this step-by-step practice guide: I. “STOP AND GO” MASTURBATING When you begin to feel an orgasms approach cease all penile stimulation. Let your level of excitement drop slightly, then approach another orgasm. Repeat this “stop and go” approach to an orgasm at least nine times. Notice that stimulation to your penis feels better and better. On the tenth orgasm approach bear down hard with your bulbospongiosus (piss stopper) muscle but slow down your stroking as you reach the point of no return. The reduced stimulation to the penis permits the pleasure of sexual organ emissions drive you to the full ejaculatory orgasm. Notice the increased volume and intensity of your orgasm. GOALS: 1. Learn to resist the temptation of the orgasm; just as your penis feels really great to stroke…stop. You will discover that the avoidance of immediate pleasure will bring greater pleasure. 2. Strengthen your sexual organ muscles. 3. Increase your mental control over orgasms. 4. Learn to measure the approach of your orgasm. 5. Feel the emissions phase as separate from the ejaculatory phase of an orgasm. II. RECTAL MONITOR Practice the Stop and Go technique. When you are ready to orgasm lube up your middle finger and stick it up your butt! Feel around your prostate (walnut sized organ one inch past your anus) then put your finger all the way in, past the prostate. With your finger probing above the prostate proceed to orgasm. GOALS: 1. Learn how good it feels to massage your prostate and ampullary gland. 2. Feel how your internal sex organs harden during an orgasm. The ampullary gland is felt when hard as triangular just above the prostate. The seminal vesicles are the firm cords running down into the ampullary gland. III. RELAXATION WHEN CLOSE: Practice Stop and Go approaches to an orgasm, but try to get a little closer to the point of no return. When you get close, stop stroking your penis and completely relax all sex muscles. Concentrate especially on relaxing your bulbospongiosus (piss stopper) muscle. Let your level of excitement drop, but less so, before resuming the approach to another orgasm. Relax completely each time you are near an orgasm and stop sexual stimulation. Notice that relaxation helps to extinguish the orgasm feelings. GOALS: 1. Learn to resist the lure of an orgasm which is now closer. You must relax just when your piss stopper muscle would naturally bear down, and stop stroking just when it feel really good. 2. Learn to more quickly resume penile stimulation after stopping. 3. Learn to get closer and closer to ejaculatory inevitability without passing that threshold. IV. CLOSE RELAX CLOSE RELAX SO CLOSE Build up your level of sexual excitement first with at least five stop and go sessions, then try to get REAL CLOSE to an orgasm and RELAX all sex organ muscles. Get so close that you would have triggered an orgasm if you had not become fully relaxed. Your mission is continue to feel the orgasms approach for a few seconds even though you are not stimulating your penis. The lure to stroke yourself is very strong at this point but resist! With practice you will briefly enter the sex organs emissions phase without ejaculating. Relaxing will suppress your ejaculatory reflex response and help keep semen retained behind the ejaculatory ducts valves. Semen pressure will build in the ampullary gland. A soft finger massage of the prostate and ampullary gland once they are gorged from emissions is pleasurable. GOALS: 1. Learn to resist the lure of an orgasm you have actually begun. The temptation to continue stroking yourself is very strong at this point. 2. Practice this exercise until you enter the emissions phase fully relaxed. Your seminal vesicles will harden and discharge into your ampullary gland, but no should fluid will leak into your urethra. 3. Observe how much better penile stimulation feels when your sex organs are gorged with sperm, ampullary gland, and seminal fluids. 4. Learn to vary penile stimulation by site, and by intensity. 5. Expand your mental control over previously autonomic responses, i.e. increase the number of brain cells you devote to sex. V. SEMINAL VESICLES HARD FIVE TIMES Build up sexual tension with several close stop and gos, then proceed to approach the threshold of the ejaculatory reflex. Be careful to cease stimulation and relax fully just as you begin to enter the emissions phase of your orgasm. Sometimes at this point your seminal vesicles will harden. Let your excitement wane, then come close to the point of no return again. Practice reaching the ejaculatory reflex threshold so that you harden your seminal vesicles at least five times. Semen will accumulate each time the seminal vesicles harden. Now contract your bulbospongiosus (piss stopper) muscle and feel semen push back up into the ampullary gland…FEELS GOOD! Notice the increased quantity of semen ejaculated when you finally cum. GOALS: 1. Build up semen pressure behind your ejaculatory ducts valves. 2. Manipulate the fluid in your internal sexual organs. 3. Learn to harden your seminal vesicle without causing ejaculatory contractions or leaking semen. VI. RESIST THE ULTIMATE TEMPTATION Gorge your internal sex organs with semen, reaching seminal vesicle hardening at least five times then stop…take out the trash or something. Be careful to protect your tender balls. Let your level of excitement drop completely, then resume the seminal vesicle hardening. Be very careful to build up your excitement slowly with a few stop and gos before attempting a seminal vesicle hardening. Proceeding too fast can cause uncomfortable leakage of semen. GOALS: 1. Learn how much excitement is required before attempting a seminal vesicle hardening. 2. Stop your masturbation session for at least two hours. You will be totally horny. Resist the lure! Try to spend one night with your sex organs gorged. 3. Gain complete control of when you have an ejaculatory orgasm. VII. SO CLOSE CONTINUOUSLY Build up to five seminal vesicle hardenings, relax and fill your ejaculatory ducts, then contract your piss stopper muscle and push the semen up into your ampullary gland. Get as close to your ejaculatory orgasm as you can without crossing the reflex response threshold. Now practice close-relax-harden-contract, and again close-relax-harden-contract repeatedly, in rapid succession. Ultimately, you will enter a state of nearly continuous orgasm emission phases. Your swollen testes and throbbing spermatic cords will orgasm. Orgasm emission pleasure from your ampullary gland are amplified by the accumulating fluid and especially fluid pressure in your ejaculatory ducts. The rapid succession of emissions orgasms becomes a continuous orgasm without ejaculation. GOALS: 1. Learn to harden your seminal vesicles at will. 2. Learn to harden your seminal vesicles in rapid succession. 3. Practice staying very close to an ejaculatory orgasm, almost continuously feeling a hardening of your seminal vesicles. 4. Hold your orgasm at the continuous emissions phase endlessly. Learn to maintain your emissions orgasm mentally; by concentrating on producing emissions, enough pleasure can be generated to perpetuate those emissions…without penile. 5. Learn to maintain your emissions orgasm mentally; by concentrating on producing emissions, enough pleasure can be generated to perpetuate those emissions…without penile.ÊHow To Take It Up The AssBy D. Katz I would like to share this tutorial with other authors of this section of Men on the Net. I will write a lesson on anal sex and would be delighted if you Keçiören Rus Escort contribute with your accounts about your experiences in this mode of sex. I usually do more oral and manual (caressing, touching, wanking my partner) sex than anal. A guy has to be really gorgeous or really close to me affectionately in order to accept his cock into my ass or to fuck him. Therefore, you may know much more about anal sex than I, but I would recommend the following points: The fucker, i.e. the active partner, must be really sexually aroused. Unlike oral sex (where allowing a cock to grow hard into your mouth is the most exquisite pleasure), there is nothing nastier and more unpleasant than a soft limp cock trying to enter Uranus (I mean, your anus). An advice: never let an old man (50+) to try anal sex with you. Choose young fuckers, strong stallions full of energy, with rock hard penises and big balls to support erection. If the active partner is not that hard, engage in foreplay beforehand. Lubricate thoroughly. I like to use KY gel or baby oil. Ass rimming is not my bag, I do not think that tongue-ass contact is something sexy, or healthy, and I don’t do it and don’t allow anyone to do it to me. But, that’s up to you. I’d rather have my ass (or the one of my passive partner) lubricated with oil or gel. Or, better, don’t lubricate the hole, but the cock, and here the best option is sucking. Try oral sex first, suck or get sucked and the cock will be wonderfully lubricated with the saliva-precum mixture. If you like pain, then it’s up to you. I have been fucked without lubrication on several occasions, and it can be a turn on, in spite of the excruciating pain, especially if your fucker is a gorgeous big stud with a foot long cock and a muscular body to dive into you with energy. But I’d rather have no pain. And if you are fucked without lubrication, it is better if you didn’t eat any chili pepper and your partner didn’t eat it either. When you start being penetrated, help, push your ass towards the cock, and caress your partner’s body. If you are being fucked doggy style, reach his bum with your hands and caress it, knead it; if you are on your back, then caress his chest, lick and bite his nipples, lick his stomach; and if you are on top of him, then impale yourself, let your own weight push you onto the cock and it into you, but be careful and guide the cock with your hand since if it is not straight and touches hard parts and bends, it can be a put off or it can cause premature ejaculation. Do not try to close your ass muscles, unless you have a lot of experience with that partner and you learned how to do it properly, otherwise you will cause him to come, and your pleasure will end before starting. Enjoy every second of your fuck, and once that the cock was taken all in, then let your fucker take it out almost completely, slowly, and then insert it all in again quickly, and if you can, help him. For instance, if you are on top, being fucked, steady yourself properly on your feet so you can push up and then go down again. If you are on your back, move your hips in a circle. The in-out movement will give you a lot of pleasure, but the sideways movement is more exciting, especially if you try to feel the tip of his cock inside you. Make your fucker use a condom and come into it, it feels quite sexy, and does not interfere with your enjoyment. If your partner is healthy and you too, and there is no risk of infection, then let him come directly into you, and it’s wonderful. Try to close your muscles to avoid the sperm running out; keep it in and you’ll feel the warmth of the semen and its smoothness into your body. Or if he comes out of you, there is more pleasure if you see him coming than if he comes behind you. If you see him coming, surely you will come at the same time too. Well, this is my lesson. Can you contribute with your lessons? I want to learn more ways of enjoying anal sex. I would like to share this tutorial with other authors of this section of Men on the Net. I will write a lesson on anal sex and would be delighted if you contribute with your accounts about your experiences in this mode of sex. I usually do more oral and manual (caressing, touching, wanking my partner) sex than anal. A guy has to be really gorgeous or really close to me affectionately in order to accept his cock into my ass or to fuck him. Therefore, you may know much more about anal sex than I, but I would recommend the following points: The fucker, i.e. the active partner, must be really sexually aroused. Unlike oral sex (where allowing a cock to grow hard into your mouth is the most exquisite pleasure), there is nothing nastier and more unpleasant than a soft limp cock trying to enter Uranus (I mean, your anus). An advice: never let an old man (50+) to try anal sex with you. Choose young fuckers, strong stallions full of energy, with rock hard penises and big balls to support erection. If the active partner is not that hard, engage in foreplay beforehand. Lubricate thoroughly. I like to use KY gel or baby oil. Ass rimming is not my bag, I do not think that tongue-ass contact is something sexy, or healthy, and I don’t do it and don’t allow anyone to do it to me. But, that’s up to you. I’d rather have my ass (or the one of my passive partner) lubricated with oil or gel. Or, better, don’t lubricate the hole, but the cock, and here the best option is sucking. Try oral sex first, suck or get sucked and the cock will be wonderfully lubricated with the saliva-precum mixture. If you like pain, then it’s up to you. I have been fucked without lubrication on several occasions, and it can be a turn on, in spite of the excruciating pain, especially if your fucker is a gorgeous big stud with a foot long cock and a muscular body to dive into you with energy. But I’d rather have no pain. And if you are fucked without lubrication, it is better if you didn’t eat any chili pepper and your partner didn’t eat it either. When you start being penetrated, help, push your ass towards the cock, and caress your partner’s body. If you are being fucked doggy style, reach his bum with your hands and caress it, knead it; if you are on your back, then caress his chest, lick and bite his nipples, lick his stomach; and if you are on top of him, then impale yourself, let your own weight push you onto the cock and it into you, but be careful and guide the cock with your hand since if it is not straight and touches hard parts and bends, it can be a put off or it can cause premature ejaculation. Do not try to close your ass muscles, unless you have a lot of experience with that partner and you learned how to do it properly, otherwise you will cause him to come, and your pleasure will end before starting. Enjoy every second of your fuck, and once that the cock was taken all in, then let your fucker take it out almost completely, slowly, and then insert it all in again quickly, and if you can, help him. For instance, if you are on top, being fucked, steady yourself properly on your feet so you can push up and then go down again. If you are on your back, move your hips in a circle. The in-out movement will give you a lot of pleasure, but the sideways movement is more exciting, especially if you try to feel the tip of his cock inside you. Make your fucker use a condom and come into it, it feels quite sexy, and does not interfere with your enjoyment. If your partner is healthy and you too, and there is no risk of infection, then let him come directly into you, and it’s wonderful. Try to close your muscles to avoid the sperm running out; keep it in and you’ll feel the warmth of the semen and its smoothness into your body. Or if he comes out of you, there is more pleasure if you see him coming than if he comes behind you. If you see him coming, surely you will come at the same time too. ÊAnal Fisting (Handballing)What is it? This is intended as an introduction for those who are new to the world of handballing or are curious about the subject. Handballing – a.k.a. fisting,Ê FF,Ê puppeteeering – as defined by Bert Hermann in his book TRUST: THE HANDBOOK is the manipulation of the anal canal, the rectum and perhaps the descending and transverse colon with the hand, and sometimes the forearm and beyond, in such a manner as to be sensually pleasurable. Not only are there great pleasurable sensations at play, but there is also an intense intimacy created by the very nature of the significant connectedness. ÊTools of the Trade Gloves: Provide protection to both the top and the bottom.Ê Surface abrasion in the walls of the large intestines are an ordinary occurrence even in normal conditions.Ê For the top, minor paper cuts, scratches and sores on the hands can be protected with the use of gloves.Ê For most situations, the standard disposable examination glove is sufficient.Ê the longer calving gloves should be used if the top has cuts or scratches above the glove line.Ê when choosing between vinyl and latex, the preference is for latex.Lubricants: ÊOne of the most popular still remains regular CRISCO from Procter and Gamble.Ê Water based lubricants rarely provide Etimesgut Rus Escort the lubrication necessary for fisting.Ê Whatever lubricant is being used, separate containers should be used for each person.Ê This can be done by transferring lubricant from a freshly opened container to individual containers for each of the play participants. (In the UK Aqueous Cream appears to be the most popular and is readily available from Chemists in large tubs for only a few pounds). Preparation: One thing to keep in mind is your diet.Ê Before a session, foods like fruits, vegetable and whole grains are best while red meat and fatty foods should be avoided.Ê During this period, avoid eating nuts as well as poppy, sesame and other seeds (19 to 36 hours before).Ê The final 18 hours should see little consumed.Ê What you do eat should digest slowly such as dairy products and eggs.Ê Vitamins should be a part of your diet to ensure proper strength and nutrition is maintained.Ê To aid in flushing your system, a hot drink about 15 minutes prior will help. It goes without saying that an enema should be done before engaging in activity to rid the system of any remaining residue in your intestines.Ê Allow about two hours between your final enema and the beginning of play.Shaving: If the hair around your butt is long, you may want to shave it as it may otherwise get pulled when a hand is inserted. Positions: Many bottoms prefer a sling when available.Ê Another position conducive to fisting activity are doggie style, belly down and butt up.Ê This position also provides the least bending of the rectum and often permits easier depth. Entry: This is usually a slow process.Ê Start your entry with the fingers straight and the thumb tucked under.Ê The fingers may slowly wiggle to aid in entry, gently massaging the sides of the anus.Ê As the bottom relaxes, the fingers may be broaden.Ê Avoid sudden moves or jerks as this will cause the bottom to tighten up.Ê Always make sure that there is plenty of lubricant in front of you, on your hand and on your wrist.Ê For the bottom, deep breathing is a big help and as he exhales, the top will have an easier time for entry.Ê Once inside, rest a few seconds until the bottom’s body has had a chance to adjust.Ê A gentle in-and-out motion without pulling out of the cavity will usually help the bottom build confidence.Ê From this point, be creative and take your cues from the bottom as you subtly change speed, twist and explore deeper.Ê Lengthy repetition of the same movement at the same spot will likely make the bottom sore.ÊTips on Giving Head This is from a Yahoo GroupÊÊ Gay Men Story Lovers Stewart McCloud [email protected] When a man receives fellatio he’s generally extremely grateful. If a man swallows his partner’s semen, he looks at it as a huge honor. If you can learn to truly enjoy the whole process, you’ll have an unbelievably happy man on your hands. Remember, number one, enthusiasm. For men who enjoy giving their partner this ultimate pleasure, here are some pointers. First of all, be sure you’re comfortable. The best way that his penis fits into your mouth is if you sit between his legs and lean over him. This also allows him a good view. Let him know you’re enjoying it as much as he is. Make noises, look at him with passionate eyes, treat his penis as if it’s the most important thing in the world. To him, at this moment, it is. There’s more to a man’s sexuality than his penis, however. Before even touching his penis, tease him by tickling with light feather strokes and kissing his chest, his belly, his hips, his! ! ! inner thighs, moving closer but not yet touching him. Brush across his penis as if by accident as you kiss and stroke all around it. Kiss or lick it lightly, then move away. When you do move to touching his penis directly, your frame of mind should be of honoring and making love to this amazing organ of pleasure. You’re giving him a kind of pleasure that compares to nothing else. If his penis isn’t hard yet, hold it gently in your hand and put your mouth completely around it, all the way to the base. Swirl your tongue around it, especially the head. Then, pull it slowly out of your mouth, as you suck on it. Do this a few times. The sensation for him is generally enough to get him hard right away. As an aside, a soft penis can be quite enjoyable for both of you. We have this idea that sex only happens with a hard-on. Some of the best lovemaking occurs with a soft-on. Back to our topic. Now that he’! ! ! s hard, do a variety of things, mixing them up, surprising him with new thrills. Use your hand to hold him up most of the time so your mouth doesn’t get tired. When you do find your jaw getting tired, take him out of your mouth, kiss and swirl your tongue around the tip, lick up and down the outside of his shaft, especially that ridge on the back, lick his testicles, his scrotum. Make it pleasurable for you both. Don’t forget that you’re making love to his penis and let go of the goal that you’re just trying to make him come. This is about savoring the experience, for both of you. Put him deep into your mouth once in a while, but not all the time. The shaft is not as sensitive as the head. Move up and down, varying the speed, rhythm, and depth. If you put just slightly more pressure around his shaft as you’re moving away from him, it feels good because it follows the natural flow of semen. Look at him once in a while. That can really turn him on. Men like to watch. L! ! ! et him know you like it too. Swirl your tongue around the head of his penis, the most sensitive part. Kiss it. Go back to moving in and out. Keep varying what you’re doing, but don’t jump from one thing to another too quickly either — just long enough to where he might want a bit more. With your other hand, tickle his belly, his thighs, and his testicles. Sometimes hold his testicles firmly, as you might to test the ripeness of a peach. You don’t want to hurt him, but if the pressure is firm, not hard, and even, it can feel very good to him. Touch his scrotum, softly and then with pressure, being careful not to hurt him. There’s a spot about half an inch from his anus towards his scrotum that’s especially sensitive. Touch that with mild pressure and soft strokes. Or stroke his anus. Whenever you sense he’s getting close to orgasm, the attention should focus on his penis. For orgasm, generally a man likes a mo! ! ! re continuous rhythm, up and down on his penis. Swirl your tongue as you move up and down. Stroke his testicles. This will drive him wild and he may have the most intense orgasm of his life. Put your hand around his shaft, while your mouth is around the head, and stroke him. Follow your mouth with your hand. Do this very slowly at times, savoring his pleasure, and then pick up the speed. Use a firm grip, keeping the shaft wet with your mouth, allowing your hand to slide up and down, try slightly less pressure as you move toward him and more as you move away. As your move upward to the tip of his penis, swirl your tongue around the head, then move down the shaft again. Each time you move toward the head, swirl your tongue. Get a good rhythm going. Really get into making love to his lingham. When he begins his orgasm, be especially aware of what he wants. He might hold your head and move you or slow you down. He might want to use his own hand. Allow whatever at this moment — it’s his moment and he’s lost in the pleasure that you’ve created for him. Savor it. To prolong his pleasure, after he’s come, very gently — too much can be uncomfortable because it over stimulates — continue to pleasure him, swirling and moving ever so slowly.He may not want to have an orgasm and want to be inside of you. Or you may want him inside of you. Ask him and see what his reaction is. If he wants you to stay there, you’ll probably want to do what he’s wanting at this time, since this is about pleasuring him right now. Allow him to lead. After he’s come, you can slide him inside of you while he’s still hard. The main thing is to be intuitive about what he’s liking and wanting. Ask him to guide you, to tell you exactly what he likes. If you let him know you really want to please him, he’ll be happy to oblige with specific instructions. Keep the communication sexy, not clinical. Sometimes ! ! ! just saying “Tell me what you want,” is enough to get his input. Each man is individual. These are just some ideas to try. Some men may like it just one way and don’t want you to mix it up. That’s why communication is so important. If you’re wanting to do this for him, you certainly want to do what he likes. Try new things but be willing to her that it doesn’t work for him. Let him know you want to pleasure him. It’s the highest compliment you can give him. Most importantly, be spontaneous, creative, playful, sexy and enjoy being able to give pleasure that he’ll not soon forget. Allow yourself to really get lost in the experience. Most men will be thrilled with whatever you’re doing. The only complaints I hear in my interviews is not being careful enough with the teeth, treating his lingham as if it’s not part of him, not doing it long enough or often enough, and most importantly, not being enthusiastic about being there. If you’re goal is pleasuring him, you’ll be g! ! ! reat. Hopefully this will show you that being creative, having a loving attitude, and being willing to make it an enjoyable activity for both of you will create a fantastic experience. If you’re enthusiastic, passionate, and sexy, he’ll go wild and your confidence as a lover will skyrocket.